We all trying to judge by facts, not by emotion and believe we are doing fine. But it is hard not to think about emotion while making a decision.
In life, objective facts are only 10% of life, and the remaining 90% is our response to them. - Charles Swindol
As he said, we rely on our subjective experiences. These subjective experiences make the value of our life and influence throughout our life. However, since they are subjective, it means that the change of our thoughts can result in the change in our life. In this post, I will introduce about framing as a method to change our thoughts.
How it Works
As the word frame shows, the frame is the window that shows us the world. If you have a red window, light and view of outside will become all red. Have you ever had an experience where things related are seen more frequently around you when you are immersed in something?
A team of researchers at Cornell University conducted an experiment about this. They survey to female college students about the overall food industry in the U.S., asked whether they were on a diet with the question, 'Did food advertising on TV increase from 10 years ago?' As a result, people on a diet said food advertising increased compared to 10 years ago more than people who are not on a diet. This result shows that people on a diet are looking at the world through "food frames."
This phenomenon also occurs in parents with children. They are more concerned about the safety of around things that they did not care about before. Different types of discrimination are also a kind of frame.
Ways to Improve Your Frame
So how can we improve our frame in which direction? Here are the tips that will help you to find the right path.
Have a Meaning-Oriented Frame
Frames are largely divided into upper and lower frames. The upper frame asks 'why' but the lower frame asks 'how'. In the upper frame, we ask why this is necessary, what it means, and what it's about. It asks about the vision and set the ideal. But in a frame at the lower level, specific procedures are asked first, such as how easy it is to do the job, how long it takes, and how likely it is to succeed. So the person with a lower frame can easily miss the ultimate goal or the big picture and always waste my energy chasing the issues around oneself.
In order to become a truly wise person, you should always frame your future work or current work at a higher level. You should develop habits of the meaning-oriented frame, thinking that every single act of daily life will be done in the distant future.
Observe the Access Frame
The meaning of the access frame is 'just do it'. When people are reminded of the old past, they usually recall their repentance for things they did not do in those days. The fact that he did not study hard during his school days, did not read many liberal arts books, did not exercise hard, and did not make friends with more people is all regretful of things he had not done in the past. That's because, in the short term, regret for things you haven't done is coming closer than regret for what you've already done.
A man who has never made a mistake is a man who has never tried a new thing. - Albert Einstein
Do not cling to self-defense, but approach the world outside your self. When approaching others, always keep a frame of approach when you encounter new things. Remember when it is frightening. The regrets of approaching disappear as time goes by, but the regrets of rest are getting bigger with time.
Get the Frame 'Here, Now'
People have a habit of framing the present as a 'preparation time'. They think it's time to prepare for a better future and to be sacrificed unilaterally. I believe that it is not something to enjoy and enjoy, but something to endure. Universities are sacrificed for their careers, careers for their retirement, and old age for their children.
The path to happiness comes from enjoying and appreciating the moment right now. According to psychological research, happy people are those who actively celebrate and enjoy everyday things such as praise and encouragement that they hear while doing their birthday, family, friends birthday, and work life.
The word 'savoring' in English means an act of capturing the present moment and enjoying it fully. The frame we need is not the present, but the present as a 'savoring' object.
Do not be afraid to eat a precious meal of the moment at this moment, and enjoy the taste of the ingredients in the food. If you have something to congratulate or congratulate you, let the people around you celebrate and congratulate you. Enjoy the present moment fully with the frame of 'here, now'.
Discard the Comparison Frame
The frame of comparison deprives the joy of learning and the spirit of the challenge. It is more important that we try to look good in the eyes of others than to learn new things with all our strength so that we make ourselves comfortable with things that already doing well.
Productive and wise comparisons are not a horizontal comparison with others, but a horizontal comparison with myself. It is more productive to see how much you are improving and how close you are to the future you are dreaming than comparing others.
The frame that looking at the world should not be 'comparison with others'. It is important to remember that pursuing "the best of me" is a genuine happiness, rather than a temporary satisfaction of being better than others and better materially than others.
Change Things Around
The objects lying around are not simply responsible for the functions necessary for real life. If you want to have a competitive mind, fill your surroundings with things that will cause competition. If you want to trigger conscientious action, placing a mirror is also a good way. One way is to hang up or carry pictures of the person you want to emulate. This is because hanging a picture of a role model you want to resemble can trigger a frame that makes you think and act like that person. Choose the things around you appropriately to meet your goals.
Consuming as an Experience Frame
Happiness comes more when consumption for experience rather than consumption for ownership. When you watch a movie, try not to frame a movie, but to watch a movie created by human imagination. Remember that spending for others, especially for me, doubles the happiness. To live a comfortable life, you will have to spend money on yourself. However, if you want to experience a higher level of happiness, try to consume it for others. Rather than framing paying for someone as a simple greeting or ritual gift, it is necessary to change the idea of framing happiness vitamins for oneself.
Practice the Great Repeating Frame
Habits make it possible to do anything - Dostoyevsky
The attainment of adulthood is made by 'unstoppable effort' in any area of it. In the field of cognitive psychology, there is a rule called '10-year rule.' It is a law that requires at least ten years of constant effort and concentration to achieve professionalism in any field. Remember that many of those we know as geniuses are not natural geniuses but products of concentration and repetition beyond our imagination. The same is true of the frame. We need to work hard and repeat ourselves to make the frame we want.
Life situations are unilaterally given, but the frame for the situation is our own choice. Furthermore, choosing and deciding on the best frame is the last fortress and moral obligation of personality given to us.
Ambiguity is the law of life, not an exception. Our sensory experiences and individuals' extremely personal judgments are also placed under the influence of the frame. It is the frame that gives order to a world full of ambiguity. In short, the frame is 'the bridge of an ambiguous world.